The club scene in New York has changed a lot in the last few years, a lot of the bigger clubs moved over to caterig to the bottle service crowd. Some clubs in Brooklyn started picking up the slack (see Studio B) and smaller clubs continue to thrive (Cielo and Sullivan Room). Loft parties still go strong with folks like Minimoo still contributing, despite the organisational failure of their recent music festival. There is also a moderately healthy Burner culture that throws parties semi-regularly.
Electronic music in general is not well accepted in the States but there are definitely still pockets of activity in New York.
To get a feel for the type of events that happen you can check out
www.rhythmism.com and their events calendar. i wouldn't take the opinion of anyone on the message board however as a good temperature gauge on the scene.
Any other questions, hit me up there or on email therev at techfunk dot org. I don't get on here much.
But I think the best advice is definitely, keep doing what you are doing.